Date Yourself Instead

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You’ve made it to Date Yourself Instead, a podcast intended to inspire you to become the best version of yourself. In 2021, social media personality Lyss started a self-love series on TikTok which amassed over 100+ million views on her videos and counting. In this podcast, she gets candid about her relationship experiences, and touches on other topics including business, beauty, wellness, and so much more. Welcome to the #dateyourselfinstead movement. Episodes every Monday.

Recent Episodes
  • Why solo travel will change your life forever
    Jun 30, 2024 – 00:33:22
  • Love yourself enough to leave - stop abandoning yourself pls
    Jun 24, 2024 – 00:36:20
  • 10 things I'm letting go of this summer (AND FOREVER)
    Jun 17, 2024 – 00:41:24
  • GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT (Taking a leap of faith into the unknown)
    Jun 10, 2024 – 00:29:30
  • HOW TO HAVE A MAJOR GLOWUP POST BREAKUP
    Jun 3, 2024 – 00:42:42
  • IT'S A SELF LOVE SUMMER (Protect your peace and energy)
    May 27, 2024 – 00:32:30
  • THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO MANIFEST YOUR DREAM LIFE (Step by step tutorial)
    May 20, 2024 – 00:39:45
  • IF YOU TRULY LOVE SOMEONE, LET THEM GO (Why love is freedom + The POWER of divine timing) - lessons from Bali
    May 12, 2024 – 00:42:16
  • How to detach and let go of the outcome in relationships
    May 5, 2024 – 00:26:51
  • How to manifest 100x faster - LIVING IN THE END
    Apr 29, 2024 – 00:32:51
  • What to do when they act distant, pull away or breakup with you
    Apr 22, 2024 – 00:38:10
  • How to trust your higher self and divine calling - a breakup pep talk
    Apr 15, 2024 – 00:42:49
  • Get over the fear of being alone NOW ft. Jemma Sbeg (Psychology of your 20's)
    Apr 7, 2024 – 01:09:35
  • How to radiate confidence, self love and power
    Mar 31, 2024 – 00:29:29
  • How to stop being attracted to the wrong people ft. Haley Hoffman Smith
    Mar 24, 2024 – 00:54:05
  • How to get over a situationship and find your soulmate
    Mar 18, 2024 – 00:41:27
  • How to let go of the toxic cycle, set boundaries, and move on
    Mar 11, 2024 – 00:40:11
  • Your only competition is YOU - stop comparing yourself to other people
    Mar 4, 2024 – 00:34:23
  • I got sick from a toxic relationship + how I healed my PCOS naturally
    Feb 26, 2024 – 00:28:36
  • How to master your emotions and remain in your power
    Feb 19, 2024 – 00:44:00
  • My biggest dating icks + dealbreakers in 2024
    Feb 12, 2024 – 00:42:52
  • 10 BIG ways to improve your mindset & manifest your dream life
    Feb 5, 2024 – 00:32:58
  • Get ready with me for a first date in London (VLOG)
    Jan 29, 2024 – 00:20:25
  • How to fall in love with YOURSELF in 2024
    Jan 29, 2024 – 00:24:16
  • Stop projecting a fantasy of what someone could be…THEY'RE NOT THAT PERSON.
    Jan 22, 2024 – 00:35:41
  • 31 life lessons I learned before turning 31
    Jan 15, 2024 – 00:37:34
  • What to do when they pull away + the best dating advice EVER ft. Jemma Sbeg
    Jan 8, 2024 – 00:41:50
  • Why going no contact WORKS.
    Jan 1, 2024 – 00:42:24
  • How to manifest a specific person back into your life
    Dec 25, 2023 – 00:31:50
  • If they wanted to, THEY WOULD.
    Dec 18, 2023 – 00:34:03
  • 5 BIG ways to level the f*ck up in 2024
    Dec 11, 2023 – 00:41:12
  • Decenter that toxic man now. YOU are the main character.
    Dec 4, 2023 – 00:33:01
  • DETACH to ATTRACT - how being detached helps you manifest faster
    Nov 27, 2023 – 00:38:12
  • Feeling lonely this holiday season? I've got you.
    Nov 20, 2023 – 00:26:02
  • SEND THEM LOVE anyway - the ultimate healing guide
    Nov 13, 2023 – 00:31:17
  • Stop procrastinating, your future self needs you
    Nov 6, 2023 – 00:39:20
  • It's time to upgrade, uplevel, and become f*cking unstoppable this fall season
    Oct 30, 2023 – 00:42:13
  • How to handle rejection & move on
    Oct 26, 2023 – 00:35:14
  • Dare to Detach
    Oct 16, 2023 – 00:01:35
  • The power of being direct and communicative (stop playing games)
    Oct 16, 2023 – 00:33:51
  • Mastermind - how to get anything or anyone you want
    Oct 9, 2023 – 00:34:53
  • If you can't match my energy, BYEEE (masculine vs. feminine energy)
    Oct 2, 2023 – 00:52:20
  • 5 signs you need to breakup + my views on sex & casual hookups
    Sep 25, 2023 – 00:39:02
  • You deserve consistency. It should feel good - if it doesn’t, let that sh*t go.
    Sep 18, 2023 – 00:44:02
  • YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY
    Sep 11, 2023 – 00:47:06
  • How to know if they're the 1 - GREEN FLAGS
    Sep 4, 2023 – 00:28:41
  • Stop diluting your power for a man
    Aug 28, 2023 – 00:33:53
  • He's just not that into you
    Aug 21, 2023 – 00:39:14
  • Here's what to do when they pull away
    Aug 14, 2023 – 00:38:33
  • Why we broke up - the breakup that changed me forever
    Aug 7, 2023 – 00:29:17
Recent Reviews
  • Hermothyyy
    EVERYONE DESERVES/NEEDS A LYSS IN THEIR LIFE 🩷
    You allowed me to feel seen and validated when I’ve never felt more alone. You were there to lift me up when nobody else was. You changed my whole perspective on life, relationships and myself. I am able to see things from a different light and I genuinely don’t know where I’d be today without some of your nuggets of wisdom. Thank you Lyss for being an authentic voice of truth and light in a world full of darkness, chaos, and confusion.
  • fjdksksksksksks
    Love it
    This podcast has truly helped me heal completely. I highly recommend listening.
  • Jennyhv86
    Amazing!
    I really enjoy this podcast! It really has helped me with my relationship and get what I deserved! Also her Masterclass is amazing! This podcast is very helpful and has real info about relationships, toxic relationships and some advice to deal with that. I also tried her master class and it has helped me so much. I totally recommend Lyss!
  • KL_47
    Perpective
    In a recent episode, you stated something along the lines of “I know so much because I am 31 and have had 3 LT relationships including one when I was 15”. Yes, your advice is great for teens and 20-something’s. Please understand that you still have SO much to learn. Us over 50 something’s who have been in multiple relationships that lasted over over 10-15 years and involved kids, etc…these type of LT relationships and heartbreak will give you a much different perspective and wisdom. That said, I still enjoy you and much of your content.
  • camrynelizabeth
    Love
    I have shared episodes to many of my friends. This podcast shifted my perspective at the exact right time for me. I will continue to share it with people who need to hear it as much as I did♥️
  • lacesimm
    Very relatable
    This podcast is like a talking with a wise, compassionate, down to earth best friend. Lyss doesn't talk down to her listeners or preach like some other self help podcasters, she’s right there with you, being open and vulnerable with her relatable stories all the while espousing practical advice you know you needed to hear.
  • Subway beasts
    Amazing podcast
    This is a wonderful podcast that has really helped me reflect on my role in some of the dynamics I have with others. Lyss seems like a wise old soul (even though she’s young)!
  • JenTris4Water
    So good!
    The May 12 episode truly resonated with me. Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
  • Adriana 🥹❤️‍🔥❤️💖
    Literally the best podcast 🫶🏼
    There’s no words to describe how thankful I am to have come across your podcast. Listening to you help me understand and see life from a different perspective. I hope you know that ! Again thank you for being such an amazing guidance and my therapist without even knowing it ❤️
  • Lolnay101
    🔥🔥🔥
    Lyss, I have been listening to your podcast all month long. You’re the absolute G.O.A.T with relationship advice. You’ve helped me shift my mindset and I just wanna say THANK YOU so much from the bottom of my heart. If I could shake your hand I wouldn’t hesitate. Keep striving and please do not stop what you are doing. I believe that God gave you this natural gift to help those in need. God bless you and thank you again for helping not only me, but others out. You’re the best! (Here’s your flowers girlie) 🩷💐💐💐
  • KierraE1
    An alignment
    I was going through a tough time in my life and I found this podcast to be healing in so many ways. This podcast reminded me to not only look inward but also view myself from an outside stand point and remind myself that I will heal and what is for me will be for me.
  • Mini❤️❤️‍🔥
    Thank you
    I love the empowerment and this encourages me to get myself back together I went through I bad relationship and ever since your podcast I’ve really glowed up since thank you and keep doing these positive podcasts I love them
  • Healing’s
    Amazing
    I have been listening to this podcast for the past 2 years and it has helped me through the hardest 2 years of my life. I did join the date to detach class. Which allowed me to only enhance my healing journey. I look forward to very Monday when the new episodes come out. I am wondering about part two of the mushroom experience. :)
  • Jenna Simon
    A++++
    I’m OBSESSED with this podcast! Her voice is so soothing and I love all of her insight on topics that I’m currently going through!!! Please keep the episodes coming 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
  • lulubeelove23
    I love this podcast!
    I literally started listening to this podcast yesterday and I’m already on episode 18! I listen to this all day at work while I’m working! Thank you for this podcast! I’m on my healing journey from a toxic 4 year on & off cycle and I finally let him go a few days ago and I’m ready to finally close this chapter for good & this podcast makes me feel so good, confident & makes me really think about a lot! thank you for all that you do! I hope this podcast never ends lol.
  • 💋💋em💋💋
    Couldn’t have done it without you
    Thank you, Lyss, for this amazing podcast. It served as an excellent resource going through the hardest time in my life. I truly couldn’t have done it without you.
  • hi✝️
    Thank you!
    Thank you so much! This has helped me so much! ❤️ Jesus loves you. God Bless🤍
  • DeeNicFry
    My Monday Morning Friend
    I absolutely love and look forward to every week! Incredible content. Lyss is a like best friend, hype man and therapist in one. So glad the instagram algorithms brought her to me.
  • c_papav
    Nope
    I was so excited about the topic and title but it’s quite vacuous, sadly.
  • Ice Game Reviews
    How to Handle Rejection
    …is the first episode of this Podcast that I listened to and Lyss Boss you ARE a boss, a queen, an inspiration! I have been preachin what you are you putting down here! And you should wait no more to monetize! (I say this bc you speak of it in this episode). This is FIRE! Such good stuff. Keep putting your passion out there. It IS contagious.
  • kelsaroo6
    So inspirational!
    Any time I’m needing a little advice in dating life or a pick me up, I turn to this podcast! It’s one of my favorites and is so helpful! Thanks for all you do lyss!
  • jjal1414
    Phenomenal
    This girl really has it going on. I thoroughly enjoy what she talks about and has helped me tremendously reframe my mindset and feel good about myself. Thank you, Lyss.
  • karen m sanchez
    Never gets to the point
    I feel like I’m listening to nonsense ??? She talks too much about herself
  • JalynnCC
    Absolutely Love
    Just started listening today and can’t wait to listen to this podcast from the beginning. 🫶🏾🤍
  • aksmul
    Thank you!
    I have never been one to listen to podcasts, but your tik tok videos kept coming across my FYP. I have listened to a couple episodes now and they are so helpful, real, and relatable. I’m going through a heartbreaking breakup right now and listening has given me some direction. ❤️
  • Sparento
    Listen to it!!💕💕
    Love the podcast! Has helped me so much and love listening!!
  • Linds 😘
    Thank you ❤️
    🤍Just wanted to drop a quick message to say your podcast has been an absolute game-changer for me. I went on a road trip recently and listened to every episode, and girl, I was in tears! Your words spoke directly to my heart, especially since I've been in a relationship-situationship for over six years. Your message of empowerment and community is just so powerful, and I can't thank you enough for creating a space where women like me feel seen and heard. I'm dying to join your masterclass—it sounds amazing! Keep doing what you're doing because you're making a real difference. Thank you, thank you, thank you!🙏🏼
  • nicoleashleybarry
    You saved me 🖤
    I never heard of you or your podcast before. Then I went thru a blindsiding breakup a couple weeks before Xmas (after almost 5 yrs - we lived together, we were in our mid 30s) this was traumatizing and traumatic. I didn’t know how I’d make it. But I took it one day at a time, I binged every single episode in a matter of a couple weeks - 2.5 months later I’ve listened to them all; so I go back and re listen. Thank you for helping me thru one of the most challenging and difficult times of my life. I truly appreciate it more than you’ll ever know.
  • KathrynC21
    Love it
    Absolutely love it you should to a episode off of attachment styles and how you have come along them in life and how you handled them!
  • succduolingo
    Thank you! You’re a gift all generations
    Just want to say thanks! I’m 52 and just broke up with someone I was seeing for a few years. Your podcast has gotten me through this breakup gracefully and with so much love for myself. I also just went on a 2nd date with someone I thought had potential to see more of and he said something that was a deal breaker for me and I gracefully walked away and confidently told him why. Amazing! Thank you! You’re a gift, all generations!
  • Ejeannette
    Redundant advice heard before
    I enjoy her TikTok content but the podcast hit the mark. Not hearing anything different or a different way to approach break ups.
  • Clutch grab
    Timing is everything
    It’s so wild I found your ig a few months ago & therefore this podcast while I was still in what I thought was my ultimate soul mate relationship & I was like heck yeah girl get it! Then I didn’t realize the universe was showing you to me so I could already have this podcast in my pocket when suddenly he was just done. Thank you so much
  • AndiiWick
    Perfect Podcast at the Perfect Time
    I found this the day after a breakup. And it’s exactly what I needed to help me start the journey of being ok with what happened. I’m two days in, and I’m constantly listening. I don’t feel alone, when I listen. I feel heard, and understood even though I’m just listening. I am so grateful for this podcast! 🤍
  • janeihop
    Level up queens
    Lyss is an icon, queen and baddie. She has such real and valid advice about romance, relationships and boundaries. Love her humor too!
  • Kirsten714
    Missed the Mark
    I enjoy the intention and end goal of the episodes but it’s very repetitive and the stories don’t seem to match the topic sometimes? Talking about a random person who you never even went on a date with on an episode where the topic is going no contact just seems redundant? It’s not hard to block a stranger. It’s hard to go no contact with someone you’ve been with for years. That’s the content that the episode should be full of.
  • Miss Frederick
    Absolutely Love 💕
    I always look forward to hearing the podcast and it’s been one of those thing to get my through my week! I love to hear her perspective and experiences to help me navigate the things I am going through myself! So thank you Lyss! I’m hooked
  • Wyatt Barker
    Life Changing!
    Lyss’s advice on dating, loving yourself, and manifesting has changed my outlook on life, and I can feel myself healing in so many ways already! Thank you Lyss!
  • JAB1616
    Love this podcast 🩷
    This podcast has been so helpful in getting back to myself and healing while going through a difficult time!!! The master class is next level too!!!
  • Ellie ollivier
    THE BEST!!!!
    Loveeee Lyss!!! She has such great advice
  • Toniiix3
    Wanted to love it
    I’ve watched a lot of self improvement videos on YouTube and listened to a variety of podcasts, so when this podcast was recommended to me by a friend to help me during my break up, I was excited. I listened to one episode and it was exactly what I needed to hear. Then I started listening to other episodes and they were a miss for me. I think the intent is there, but the execution just isn’t for me. I understand that she tells a lot of stories to be relatable and put things into perspective, but sometimes it’s TOO MUCH. I would rather her get to the point, but I feel like there’s too much unnecessary fluff. It’s like she gives a little bit of advice and then goes on a tangent with a story. I want to hear what the advice is and what I can do to get to a better place. Help me navigate. Give me the tools. Reel me in. All the unnecessary information just honestly loses me during the episodes. I truly wanted to love this podcast and I can see how it can help people. But with my short attention span, this podcast did not keep my attention.
  • Baby Hendrix
    Listen to Religiously
    I listen to this podcast religiously. And I’m 45 years old. Great info we all need even into our older age because as men get older they try less! Tried to find a website for her, but couldn’t find it so I was a little disappointed. I personally don’t feel comfortable buying an online course from someone who doesn’t have a website to represent themselves so from someone who does branding and graphic design work = your website is your business card so please just build something simple so people can find you online besides Instagram 💕
  • zenandpeace
    So real and relatable
    Literally saving my life and mental sanity as I’m going through a tough time. Thank you, Lyss! You’re so amazing 💯💯💯
  • Person who downloaded app
    I am now a better version of myself
    I LOVEEEEE this podcast. I have truly started loving to be by myself and to be alone, instead of feeling lonely. Since I stared listening to this podcast (this summer), I have felt that I am becoming a better version of myself thanks to Lyss ! 🥹💓🫶🏼
  • emiliandollars16
    Thank you
    Literally this podcast has helped me get through my break up and find my power again. Love all her tips for manifesting and upleveling.
  • Bkral04
    Raw
    The raw truth I didn’t know I needed to hear. I don’t usually listen to podcasts and knew that I needed to do something different if I wanted to make changes in my life. I’ve listened to the de-center that toxic man now episode more times than I care to admit, but it is quite literally everything I needed and need to hear.
  • kok079
    Relatable
    This podcast is relatable and just the first few episodes resonated with me. It makes me feel like less alone in how much I feel or how I feel. Thank you!
  • Ashhhhbabieeee
    Hey hey
    I absolutely love this podcast, I found myself in a bad place in my life going through a breakup with my baby father and just my self esteem was low I was stuck I found this podcast by a friend on ig so I checked it out I’m glad I did I listen to this podcast everywhere and even in the gym :) I feel like she’s my bestie talking to me love it and I feel better and taking the steps I need to better myself can’t wait to see how better ima be and more confident 💗💗💗💗
  • Becca Skipper
    Amazing!
    This has been the biggest eye opener of my life! Removing myself from the same toxic behaviors and holding myself back. I have self-sabotaged for years! She is inspiring and has helped me tremendously; I am now finally paving my way to a healthier path of loving myself!
  • Lauren1217!
    THANK YOU LYSS!
    I’ve never been a podcast girly but I was scrolling through insta reels & came across one from the date yourself instead reels & decided to check it out and OH MY GOD all I can think of is to THANK YOU LYSS from the bottom of my heart, this past month has been the biggest struggle of my life trying to let go & walk away from an unhealthy relationship & Lyss you have made my days brighter, you have given me a reason to not give up on myself. Anytime I get in my head I start binging your episodes & it has been the most help by far. Especially hearing your stories thank you for being open & sharing with the world your journey through this crazy thing called life. I hope you continue to make podcasts for a long long time because I NEED YOU! You are amazing , wonderful, I wish I could explain in more words how much you have helped me & have changed my life for the better. Trusting the process forever & always thank you again Lyss
  • Girly person.
    Advice
    These are so good and help so much. I’ve been so much happier after there and I’ve learned that it’s ok to cry and it’s not weird.
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